Hateful words can leave a lasting impression. This will remind you to watch what you say and who you say it to.
I saw a letter (below) that was written to the grandmother of a boy who has autism. The author of the letter claimed to be a mother who lived in the neighborhood and was upset at the noises he made when he was outside. The letter says the boy's "noise polluting whaling" scared the author's "normal children." It also included statements such as, "He is a hindrance to everyone and will always be that way," and "do the right thing and move or euthanize him, he is a nuisance to everyone and he will always be that way... Personally, they should take all non-retarded body parts and donate it to science..."
What the heck!? I cannot believe that anyone would even think this way, let alone write a hateful letter like this. It is just disgusting.
The boy, Max, who is 13, is visiting and staying with his grandmother, Brenda Millson, for part of the summer. The rest of the time, he lives with his parents and older brother in a different city.
Thankfully, there are those who rallied around this family. The weekend after the letter and the story became public, at least 120 people gathered outside the home in order to show their support.
I wonder what the letter-writing neighbor thought about that.
What are the children of the woman who wrote the letter learning? They are learning intolerance and hate.
I would much rather we teach our children problem-solving skills and compassion!
Talk to your children, teach them that people with a disability are people!
I am not saying this letter-writer had to stay silent if the noise was disturbing her or her family. What I am saying is that her letter is hateful and shows extreme ignorance and I am appalled. She is a coward and a bully. Would she have acted differently if it had been, in her words, "normal children" making the noise?
Letter Written to the Boy with Autism's Mother
If she had a problem with noise in her neighborhood, wouldn’t it have made sense for her to talk to her neighbor? Nicely letting them know that the noise was bothersome and look for a solution they could both be happy with is understandable. Sounds simple enough to me, but instead, she chose to hide behind her poison pen and paper.
I can only hope that the neighbors where this boy lives with his family are more understanding and caring.
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